Sex for Social Climbing: The Hidden Objective of Dating in a Big City

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Every city has their own barrier for entry that is usually a high cost of living. Rent, groceries, car insurance; each of these things cost more the closer you get to the center of a major metropolitan area. This means you almost have to be well advanced in your career or academic endeavors to take up residence in these places; however, there is a rarely mentioned alternative to finding your way into and arounf the big city—dating.

Most people do want to be in a relationship, but as you siphon through your romantic endeavors, bear in mind that most men won't settle down until they feel secure in their financial status. Very few will vocalize it, but a big reason for that is they understand settling down with one person will cut them off from one of the few forms of guaranteed mobility that's accessible to them—sex/dating.

Let's think about this for a moment. If you're over 25, how many times have you sexed your way into a new friend group, job, home (more on that in the next issue), or information that you could use to your professional advantage? Having lived in multiple big cities, I can tell you that you're far from alone, and that the practice isn't confined to entry level inhabitants. At every step along the way, sex is used as a networking tool that is only as effective as your willingness to engage and your imagination.

It may also surprise you to learn that this tool works both ways; powerful people have carnal desires of their own and their partner's economic status isn't always front of mind. In fact, daters who are secure in their financial standing tend to be happy to lift their sexual or romantic partners into better positions.

Should you be ashamed of using sex as a networking tool?

Life in the big city isn't easy. Most residents are only a paycheck or two away from homelessness, so the question you should be asking yourself is: would you rather be shamed or homeless? Networking comes in many different forms, and generally speaking, the more ways you can do it, the better off you'll be. Sexing your way into better positions in life isn't ideal, but the truth is, it's only frowned upon when you state it as an intention out loud. Keep it quiet, diversify your portfolio as soon as you're able to, and most importantly, protect yourself (physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially) along the way.

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